Weddings are lots of fun with laughter and dancing, but being married isn’t always a bit of cake. Whether you’ve been married for years or just tied the knot, in reality a lot of effort is needed for living “happily ever after”. Due to the excitement of your wedding, it’s difficult or impossible to imagine that you and your spouse might not have a happy married life. Marriage isn’t something that just happens it take work, commitment, love, and most importantly respect to make it truly happy and successful. For that both spouses have to do their part. Here are some important points to work on each day to make your marriage successful.
Always remember that happy couples can argue
There is no such marriage that is happy all the time. Every marriage goes through ups and down. Fighting or arguing is not the issue, happy marriages listen to each other’s point of view, recognize when the disagreement is going off the track, and make the necessary repairs. So if you and your spouse occasionally argue, or are going through a tough time, this does not mean you are in an unhappy couple. In fact, it probably means you’re normal.
Emphasis more on each other’s strengths
Sometimes you and your partner may have some disagreements and you may even hate your partner for a while. But to have a happy marriage you have to accept your partner’s strengths and weaknesses and be able to set realistic hopes. Let’s suppose if your strength is cooking so you might take care of the kitchen, and don’t get angry when your partner isn’t. Using our strengths on a daily basis is related with better well-being. And when we help our partner use their strengths we experience more relational satisfaction.
Your partner is not here to complete you
The phrase “You complete me,” it surely very romantic but it doesn’t work in the real world. If you totally depend on your spouse to fulfill you, so you might become over-dependent on your partner and you will be in the relationship where you are not growing as individuals. Rather than “complete” your partner, you should “complement” each other.
Always try do things together and make it fun
As stated before that it’s quite important to not completely depend on your partner in order to sustain a happy marriage life, sometimes sharing common experiences can make your relationship fun and thrilling. Adding new activities and interests into your relationship can make the bond stronger.
When couples together learn new skills and share same interest such as take a cooking class, or tennis lessons—they grow together. Happy couples have a passion and desire to build a family together for life.
Laugh with each other
Nowadays life can be a bit stressful, so it’s must to find lightness. Normally when a couple has humor or funny element in there relationship, it means they have perspective. Couples who are ease around each other makes a happy marriages. Whether there are little inside jokes, a silly sudden text, or even just watching your favorite comedy together, connecting with your spouse with laughter can grow your bond.
Be generous to one another
It’s significant to be respectful, kind and understanding towards your spouse. If you are critical and judgmental it usually end up in defensiveness and anger. So to keep things happy and healthy between you two so just try to avoid attacking your partner’s character when you’re upset. Like avoid saying “you’re such a waste” etc. Instead, try saying something that sounds much nicer.
Celebrate small wins and good moments
Most of us know that it’s vital to be there for our partner during the hard times. Usually good things happen more often than bad times, but pair often miss out those chances to connect. It’s important to focus on positive things that your spouse share and immediately stop what you are doing and give your full attention. Help them enjoy the small moment by asking questions and energetically celebrate the good news. This way you’ll show gratefulness for the happy moments in your marriage.
Always Appreciate each other
When you’re with someone all the time you can easily take them for granted, so to overcome this you should verbally express your appreciation every day. Whether it’s a positive attention towards something caring they’ve done, or letting them know something you like about them. We all need to feel appreciated and cherished for the things we are doing right. For example, if your spouse makes you coffee in the morning, tell them it makes them happy and valued.