Serving your husband is not weakness

Serving your husband is not weakness

A woman tells her husband who has just come back from work, “Please freshen up and I’ll get tea for you.” This apparently innocent remark is, in actual fact, a highly repressive, stereotypical phrase that limits the role of women in the society.

How do you serve your husband? Truth be told some of you are not serving him. Some of you are serving yourselves and then wondering why your marital bond is so weak.

Why are there so many unsuccessful marriages today? I believe that even more than a lack of commitment, there is a lack of understanding. As a society, we lack the understanding of submission as something that is designed for a purpose.

Someone has to lead; without a leader, nothing gets accomplished. Why does he get to be the one who leads? Because he does. Those of you who are single mothers or sole bread winners for your family are familiar with the weight that rests so heavily on their shoulders we are not meant to carry that weight alone.

Ina nutshell, it’s not a bad thing to honor your husband. It’s not a sign of weakness. It doesn’t mean you aren’t a strong, powerful woman. It doesn’t mean you’re a coward who lets men step all over you.  It means you’re not selfish, but rather you are selfless, and your desire is for a strong bond with your spouse that this world cannot rip apart.

I wish people weren’t so turned off by the word or the act. I wish people would serve the ones they love just a little bit more. Service isn’t a sign of weakness but a sign of strength. Invest in serving the one you love whether it is your husband, wife, mother, father, children, best friend. Just serve.

So don’t fall for the hype of this world. Don’t believe the lie that you can’t submit to your spouse and be a strong woman. You can be!


Fareeha Imdad

Assistant Editor/ Columnist, Existentialist, Shopaholic, Feminist killjoy,

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